Culled from a Facebook conversation with a colleague.
I’m actually quite ambivalent on gratitude, but I haven’t
reached the point where I can articulate my thoughts on it very well. Robert
Emmons, who leads the gratitude research program in psych, wrote some
tremendous work early in his career on religion, spirituality and mental
health. I feel that his gratitude work is a really piss-weak distillation of a
trope he found there into something you can easily run crude, empirical studies
of for the academy and otherwise market to the American earnestness brigade.
More generally, gratitude is part of the California ‘smile society’ of hedonic
psychologists who are more interested in whether people feel happy than whether
they are psychologically healthy. Just practice gratitude and all your worries
will float away. This attitude, like the privilege movement and the tendency
towards smiling and earnestness, strikes me as so god-awfully American.
Again, my thoughts here are very rough and doubtless bundled
in with my irrational hatred of the earnest and those who smile incessantly,
but I think there is something in my thoughts. On a very simple level,
gratitude is really just the Californian version of Catholic Guilt, hence
Emmons in the driver’s seat. You can recast that insidious pathology factory
into a positive slogan, but it’s still irksome. It’s about taking agency away from the
individual and giving it to a higher power. F**k that. You are the captain of
your soul.
Perhaps those people who say ‘I bought a house’ when
actually they mean ‘my parents bought me a house I could never afford in
Kirribili’ and then have all their friends say ‘congrats, so proud of you’
could do with a dose of gratitude, privilege checking and Buddhism, but I don’t
know about the rest of us. The very word ‘gratitude’ and #grateful also make my
skin crawl. How about just ‘keep a sense of proportion’. Not so pithy, but not
so Disney either.
I should mention that I have a shrine to Pan in the front
yard where I stand and think about life whenever I eat pork belly or drink
port. It’s not the practice of gratitude that I have a problem with it’s the
culture around it.
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